Posts Tagged ‘dreams’

Living Life on Purpose

01/19/2010

The following is the re-edited pre-2 AM version

I wonder if people feel their lives as a pursuit of but a necessary happiness. A race back to the original finish line. A never-ending loop that seems to go on ad infinitum. Or a maze that seems to have neither a finish or an exit.

What is Purpose other than a pre-determined ideal set by oneself to validate his or her sense of being and doing?

What Drives Us

Viktor Frankl, noted psycho-analyst and Holocaust survivor, used to say that any purpose is a good purpose. Since it at least drives one forward in a direction of anticipation, propelling and strengthening the ability to get to tomorrow.

But many times a personal purpose isn’t enough. Dreams are easily destroyed, like a father returning from the concentration camps hoping to find his family and home, only to find his entire town ransacked and word that his family has passed on. Or an ambitious professional unable to find a proper job after spending many years and much financial debt on gaining their skill set.

Changing Focus

Yet not all set-backs are viewed as such. Many motivational mentors speak of “impersonal” dreams, an idea or aspiration that far surpasses ones personal interest for comfortability or prestige, but rather a vision to make many millions of lives better and to change the world in some way or form.

With this perspective, something phenomenal occurs. The abilities lose their status as being personal and they enter a new social dynamic that, if for the right reasons, is no force to be reckoned with. No financial stress, lost deal, family crisis, or natural disaster can stand in the way of that. The world has now become your alibi, not your contender.

This is the basis all spiritual, entrepreneurial and religious pursuits. A calling to a higher purpose far greater than finding personal wealth, prestige, satisfaction or fulfillment. Happiness becomes what is done for another, what is done for the endurance of an enterprise, what is done for the patriotism of a country, what is done for a better world.

True purpose then is a self-imposed yet spiritually-validated conviction that you do all that you do, for all the right reasons. Reasons of goodness, of benefit and of making this world the great place that many before us believed it could be.

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6 Steps to Writing Effective Affirmations

01/04/2010

Special Thanks to Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul – Living Your Dreams) and Colin VanderMeulen (www.positive-attitude-tips.com)

What Are Your Dreams?

If you want to accomplish anything in life, you’ve got to commit to wanting that success in your life. The fascinating power of the subconscious enables you to get there much faster once you place that wish into vivid powerful focus. Here are some ideas for aspects of your life you may wish to improve:

•    Finances
•    Relationships (with yourself and others)
•    Health
•    Career or business
•    Emotions and Attitude
•    Spirituality

Done? Excellent!

Now you’re ready to tweak that wish list into effective affirmation statements. Take each of the items from your list and reword each one according to the steps below.

6 Easy Steps

1.    Begin with the words “I am”. They are extremely powerful. Your subconscious brain takes those words as a command to begin working on whatever follows those two words.

2.    Stay positive. Remember we’re talking about positive affirmations here. To create an effective affirmation, state what you want. Your subconscious mind thinks in pictures, so you want to avoid thinking about what you don’t want. For example, if you state that you are no longer sick, you probably still get a picture in your mind of you being sick. Rephrase it to say what you want instead. If you want to be healthy, say so. Try something like “I am healthy and energetic. My body is in perfect working order.”

3.    Keep it in the present. You want your subconscious mind to see your goal as existing. If you phrase it in the future tense, you’re training your subconscious to keep you in a state of waiting for something to come. Here’s an example: “I am energetic and alive at my ideal weight of 175.”

4.    Keep it short. Just because it’s easier to remember that way.

5.    Be specific. It’s hard for your brain to work on making something real if the goal is fuzzy. It’s also hard for you to measure how far you’ve come in achieving your goal if you’re not specific about what you desire. Specifying 175 in your weight goal, for example, is better than simply saying you want to be slimmer.

6.    Put some emotion into it. What would it feel like to achieve your goal? Try to come up with one or two key emotions and include those in your affirmation. If you look again at the weight example above, you’ll notice it included the feelings energetic and alive. If you’re having trouble figuring out exactly what it would feel like, just use the words happy and grateful. Example: “I am so happy and grateful now that I’ve reached my goal of weighing 175.”

Once you’ve done this you’re finally ready to make a list of all your dreams in the form of personal affirmations.

Here are some examples:

“I am calmly and enthusiastically answering all the questions during my job interview”
“I am successfully and happily earning $60,000 working as an executive assistant at Google”
“I am joyfully looking at my trim and fit 135-pound body in the mirror”
“I am so excited and refreshed to be completing the 25-mile NYC Marathon”
“I am happily and peacefully married to the woman of my dreams who is charming, beautiful, smart and loving”

Getting Things Done vs Planning

01/03/2010

One things that has constantly been pervasive in my life on my road to success (and it is a road), is that I have so many people suddenly telling me that “talk is cheap” and that action is the only thing that counts. Now I don’t disagree. Yet I don’t agree either. And here’s why.

Action is the main thing. And if all your thoughts, dreams, ambitions, desires, speeches and motivational seminars don’t lead to something real and concrete, then they’re nothing more than just that dreams and mere thoughts.

My problem though is when people tell me that plans are useless. For instance, if you wanted to go on a road trip, there are two ways to go. The first, is to sit at home for weeks on end, making plan after painstaking plan of what you’ll do, who you’ll see, how you’ll pack and so on. OR you could just get in the car and drive. No plans. No destination. No worries. Just drive!

Obviously the above are styles. Some people need the sense of security knowing who, what when, where, how. Others just need a why and let everything else fall into its place.

But these are all plans. What about rules? Rules don’t change much. There are rules of the road, how to pack, what to bring where, vechulu (as we say in Aramaic). Now I’m not saying you have to follow those rules to the T… but you better not veer to far away.

Planning on a road trip with someone else’s car, with no cash and no drivers license just isn’t going to end that well.

So now say you have a dream. You can spend all the time you want planning how to get there, but chances are that life will require you to take an alternative route, with maybe an extra detour.

But then there are rules. The rules don’t change often and when they do make sure you pay attention. There are principles in how we deal with people, how we should do business, how to do almost anything.

So when someone tells me “Stop planning and just get out there and do something!” I have two reposnses:

#1) I want to make sure I know all the rules. It’s true that trial and error is the best teacher but its not the fastest and its definitely not the cheapest. I’ve seen too many of my friends fail at enough businesses that I spent the last 2 years learning what those make-it-or-break-it essentials.

#2) There is a difference between Plans and Rules. Plans change, all the time! But rules, or laws as they are sometimes called, are tried and tested. They may be broken but at your own discretion.

People must always be treated a certain way. Money must always be treated a certain way. And if you want to succeed at anything, it is imperative that you study the edge by which those fail or succeed by. Action is the main thing but it must be powered in the right direction.